As of lately, I’ve been evaluating my life and questioning everything. The more I ponder the more questions I come up with. Making the decision to remain in Korea for another year, things have gone a different path than anticipated. During my brief respite in NY, I thought I had everything figured out for this coming year, but alas, nothing goes exactly how it plays out in your head. I feel like I haven’t quite found my footing yet, bouncing back from being jobless to being at a job that isn’t fulfilling. Having an erratic foundation is a struggle when I thrive at stability but I know things will settle in soon enough.
So what am I doing in life? To put perspective on things, I listed all my current personal problems and tribulations and I thought, “Will this matter 5 years from now?” The answer of course was no. Which got to thinking, “What do I want in life?” I want to make a difference in people’s lives. I want to influence people, inspire people, and leave things better off than when I found them. I want to play a significant role in someone’s life, enrich it in some way that no one else can. I want to touch someone emotionally and cultivate meaningful relationships.
Steve Jobs famously quoted, “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to be doing what I am doing today?” Ironically that quote is hanging in the office of my current job. Staring at it day after day coupled with the feeling of dread going into work, I knew I had my answer. Well, half of my answer.
I knew I didn’t want to be working there, but what did I want to be doing? My last day on Earth is too short a span, so I started thinking about my last month. I’d want to be spending as much time with my family and friends, and travel the world. I’d want to hear beautiful music, create one more piece of art, and dance one more time. I’d need to see nature, not the Taj Majal or the Eiffel Tower but breathtaking sights of the Aurora Borealis, beautiful sunsets over water, or admire how the moon contrasts against an inky black sky.
What do I currently represent? I’m at a bit of a crossroads. I don’t want to live life superficially, and be judged superficially, yet I do. It’s an internal struggle I have with myself due in part with my love affair with shopping. I sacrifice food over a good pair of shoes any day and for this reason, I think my views are still a little skewed. I can still recall getting stuck in Boston with no money because I decided I had to have these amazing pair of boots but forgot to save money for my ticket home.
Am I doing what I should be doing now, or should I be planning my life more structured? Am I manifesting my future or idling? For the first time in my life, I am getting nervous about getting older. But I guess that’s what your 20’s are for. Still learning about yourself, reflecting on your role in the world, and occasionally spending way more than you should on shoes.
“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.”- Zora Neale Hurston, Their Eyes Were Watching God.